Vanessa Trevino/ Staff Writer
The number one question that every guy wonders is “What do women really want?” Even as women, we sometimes question our own motives. Should I wear this to school today? Should I have really told him that? Should I just break it off? Should I trust him? So guys let’s not feel bad when you have a hard time figuring out women or your woman.
We often need time to figure out ourselves. Living in such a fast-paced generation, as the one we are in, I have heard both women and men of different age groups saying that relationships just aren’t what they use to be.
Times have changed and we as people have changed. It’s like it’s okay to be a slut just as long as you’re not one forever. In other words, having multiple partners is all right as long as when you are married you are loyal. Women are becoming more independent than ever before. Our world is filled with businesswomen, single mothers and part-time working/college students trying to make ends meet. After talking to a handful of women the two main focus points that women crave in a man are confidence and reliability.
Now, not too much confidence, we all know what too much confidence can come off as. I’m meaning more along the lines of confidence in situations that leave us women stumped. Women want to know that you can have that, “Don’t worry, I can handle it” kind of attitude. For instance, coming up short on money, we want to hear, “Don’t worry, I can handle it.” Kids are misbehaving in school, once again we want to hear, “Don’t worry, I can handle it.”
Remember you never want to come off as arrogant or cocky. In all seriousness, who likes a cocky individual, male or female. It’s a major turn off. It’s nice to know that there is participation going on in the relationship and that all the pressure isn’t all on us women. As if we already don’t have the stress of work, family and dealing with a relationship on our shoulders. This takes me to my next point, reliability.
Women want to know that we can rely on your word. If you say your going to do something, do it. The last thing women want is to be picking up the slack of their significant others. That means handling your business at the workplace and coming home to tend to the needs of your family. Whether your family consists of children or just you and your significant other. We want to know you’re not just there physically but that you are with us mentally dealing with the situations that life throws our way. Men often think that confidence has a lot to do with materialistic things. Such as, money, cars and looks.
This is not the deal whatsoever. Going into a relationship based on looks will not get you very far or shall I say, the relationship will not last that long. It can be the most beautiful women or man you have ever seen but they can be the most ignorant, childish, and selfish person you have ever met. Does that sound interesting to you? I hope not. Now, I am not saying every good-looking person is this way. I am simply making an example.
“Never judge a book by its cover, it could possibly be the best book you’ve ever read.” That is exactly how you should view the people that enter your life. Always get to know someone inside and out before you make the judgment of letting him or her in your world. Especially, if you’re considering a relationship with this person. Never be so quick to jump into things.
Speaking from experience, some guys will tell you exactly what they want you to hear to get what it is they want from you. Once, they get what they want, they will either turn the cold shoulder or they will not be the same funny, genuine and sweet guy you met in the beginning. Which leads me to my last point. Ladies and gentlemen always be careful of who you let into your world.
Make sure you take the time to get to know exactly who they are, if that means asking around, do so. The last thing you want to do is be made a fool. Guys let’s not forget. Treat a woman, as you would want someone treating your mother, sister or even daughter at that. I mean you don’t want a long record of women who absolutely hate you guts. In the end, all it will do is come back to haunt you when you do decide to become serious with someone. Be upfront about what it is your looking for in the beginning. Don’t lead a woman on. If you are not interested in a relationship let her know. Fatal attractions are never good.
