Staying aligned when the room is political
There’s a quiet lesson you learn when you commit yourself to meaningful work: not everyone who says they’re “here to help” actually is. Some are here for the title. Some for proximity to power. Some for optics, influence, or control. And some, fewer than we’d like, are here because the work itself matters. Community spaces are often idealized as collaborative, altruistic, and heart-led. But beneath the surface, they can mirror the same dynamics we remember from school hallways: unspoken hierarchies, gatekeeping, alliances, and the subtle art of exclusion. The “mean girl” never really disappears—she just learns new language. Words like…
